If you have been struggling with dating for a long time, this is not an easy problem to solve on your own. If you have friends to talk to about your situation, this can be helpful, but they may not be able to provide all the support you need.
Many people with dating difficulties have reported that psychotherapy helped them be their best self. Therapy or counselling can help you understand your own situation, make changes to lead a happier single life, and be in a frame of mind that attracts new people into your life. You can start the counselling conversation with our checklist of reasons for dating difficulties. Read more about getting therapy on our blog, and see more resources below.
Directory of counsellors
We are building a directory of counsellors who specialize in dating inexperience. Psychologists, psychotherapists, dating coaches, sex therapists, speech therapists and other professionals are invited to contribute and be listed here. Our first few specialist counsellors are:
- Jenn Seeley, Toronto or online, Relational Psychotherapist with lots of art supplies and toys to express yourself with. Positive about queer, trans, non-binary, fat & neurodiverse clients.
- Larry Baer, Toronto, Psychologist. Cognitive-behavioural approach to social anxiety and depression, especially for gay men and trans clients. Knowledgeable about psychosis and schizophrenia.
- Dori Zener, Toronto or online. Registered Social Worker offering therapy for people with autism, learning disabilities & intellectual disabilities. Runs a free support group for autistic women.
You might find a counsellor through an online directory or by referral from your doctor or friends. You can ask them questions about working on dating difficulties. Keep looking until you find someone who can help you.
There is lots of information beyond Connect2Hope about getting counselling. Here some tips for selecting a therapist. You could check out some free and low cost mental health resources and who to talk to when you can’t afford therapy.
If you are feeling desperate or suicidal, please contact a crisis centre on this US, Canada & international list or this international list for telephone or online chat.
We discourage you from joining the “incel” forums that foster disrespect for women, hatred and violence. There are however many more friendly peer support forums about related issues at PsychCentral, SupportGroups and other sites.