Try, try, again. But what if your first failure has you convinced that you can never succeed? My first attempt at realistic drawing was disappointing, so for 20 years I assumed I had no artistic talent. Then I ended up taking lots of art classes, succeeding in unexpected ways, and learning lessons that also apply to dating.
"Get a better haircut" is basic advice for people wanting more dates. For some it's a platitude that doesn't help. For others, a haircut is easier said than done. Why invest in yourself if nobody is interested in you? In my 20s, I switched from cutting my own hair to going to a stylist, and at first it felt scary & invasive. Now I look forward to my salon visit, and good hair makes me feel attractive and proud to be myself.
If you have been single for a long time, and you want to start dating, something needs to change. You can take direct and indirect steps to make yourself more available, desirable and confident. Start with small, low-risk changes so you don't get overwhelmed outside of your comfort zone.
A late bloomer was abused and bullied in childhood, but gained skills, independence, and confidence, which helped him start relationships.
You can use a dating site effectively by quickly selecting the interesting profiles and sending them unique, kind and confident messages. Or you can be like me: anxious, insecure and worried about rejections by strangers!
Suggested topics for advice blog posts about: starting dating in adulthood, self-confidence, dating success strategies, friendships, and tough situations.