Try, try, again. But what if your first failure has you convinced that you can never succeed? My first attempt at realistic drawing was disappointing, so for 20 years I assumed I had no artistic talent. Then I ended up taking lots of art classes, succeeding in unexpected ways, and learning lessons that also apply to dating.
A software geek worked really hard at online dating. It finally worked out when he expressed his frustrations in a genuine and intelligent way. Finding love can be really difficult and take a really long time, but it can also still be absolutely worth it.