Some people avoid connecting with others, because social situations trigger anxiety and fear. This is based on shame and may be worsened by stigma. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can identify and treat your specific fears.
Support groups, online and in-person, may be a good place to talk. There aren't many good ones specific to dating inexperience, but you might find support in allied groups about shyness, anxiety, depression, autism or other issues. Please share your experiences!
A software geek worked really hard at online dating. It finally worked out when he expressed his frustrations in a genuine and intelligent way. Finding love can be really difficult and take a really long time, but it can also still be absolutely worth it.
Some people would actually prefer to remain single. Don't let society pressure you into a relationship you don't want.